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“Drama is not practical,” Tessina says, “it’s a negative fantasy.Focus on the practical things you need to do and think.”Part of that involves getting your emotional, personal and financial life together as soon as you can.People understand that you need time to process your emotions — and you need to understand that, too.According to Victoria Tarbell, a licensed mental health counselor, if we try to pretend like breakups don’t hurt by ignoring our heartache, all we’re doing is creating bigger challenges for ourselves down the road.And if your ex left you for someone else, don’t blame that person, either.We only have so much time and energy, so rather than wasting it on your ex, work towards rebuilding your life.
“Make it somewhat easier on yourself by dealing with it now and knowing that this will be your best bet for long-term healing.”Guilt is like time payments — you can keep suffering forever, Tessia explains.In the meantime, take care of yourself, give yourself room to grieve and process your emotions and take this as an opportunity for a fresh start.[The following is a guest post from Coach Lee, a new acquaintance of mine who helps people get their ex-girl/boyfriend back. If only they had been able to work on themselves before they started dating this person. So as you seek a boyfriend or girlfriend, work on yourself in the following areas: #1: Great Relationships Spend time with family and friends.And consider it an opportunity, Tessnia suggests — think about all the things you now have time to do, and do some of them.Try things you would never have done before, or things you’ve always wanted to do.