Online dating for widowers
I’d been with my husband Shawn since right after college, so I had no real idea how to meet single men that I didn’t just run into all the time on campus.
My friends assured me that the way to meet people was via the internet.
Neither Shawn nor I wanted to separate, and I certainly didn’t want him to die in my arms at age 40.
This terrible tragedy happened to us, but we didn’t want it.
I didn’t want to date a 70-year-old man, but apparently if I was looking to date other people who suffered a similar loss to mine, my options were limited. Yes, I could list that I was a widow on my profile. Worse, might it draw creepy men, like the ones who pretended to be widowers and stalked my Facebook page?
Another found love in a grief group, only to find out that the man was horribly demeaning and all they really shared was the incredible bad luck that brought them to the group.
Yet another went on several dates with a “nice” guy who she later found out was arrested and incarcerated for a decade for possessing child pornography.
But what did I know about the world of online dating, from writing a catchy bio to appearing attractive in digital form?
My research into the best online dating sites for widows and widowers was not encouraging.