Muslim dating events
But many Muslim millennials, especially those of us who grew up in the West, want more control over who we end up spending the rest of our lives with.
Platforms like Minder and Muzmatch, another Muslim dating app, have put that power in our hands.
"It's not like we can go to clubs or bars to meet people in our community, because there's a reputation to uphold and there's a stigma attached to going out and meeting people."That stigma, prevalent in many immigrant communities, also applies to meeting people online, which is generally viewed by some as desperate.
But as more people sign up for these apps, that notion is being challenged, says Muzmatch CEO and founder Shahzad Younas."There is an element of taboo still, but it's going," Younas says.
Finding a life companion can sometimes be easy, like when you meet someone at work, at school, or at an event.
But more often than not, it’s hard – especially when you come from a conservative culture where arranged marriages and parent involvement in choosing a spouse are common.
Especially for those from my parents' generation, it carries a negative connotation and pits Islamic ideals about intimacy against Western cultural norms.
Samira is in her late 20s and a singles event regular.
She’s been to three of them in the last five years. “Obviously we don’t have bars to go out and meet Muslim guys, and I like that this is more organized because the people here are only here to get married, and not just have a good time.” At her table, there are three other women and four men – an uncommon sight at most Muslim gatherings where the sexes sit separately. There’s a piece of paper on the table that has 10 questions on it. At one table a man answers the question: “the last thing I read was..article about the pope controversy, a textbook because I’m doing my M. H., Steve Jobs’ biography.” As I roam the tables, I realize the questions are indeed serving their purpose. Laughs, and a warm buzz of intimacy build in the room.
(We don't.) Some people seem to have a notion Islam is stuck in the 15th century.
Yes, there's always that family friend who can't stop herself from playing matchmaker.