Hang out before dating
If you're willing to change your whole lifestyle for someone you're dating, more power to you, but most of us will prefer to date someone who neither holds us back, nor leaves us in the dust.Despite what many people think, you can figure this one out without getting all Freudian in the middle of a dinner date.BTW, your bartender has some pretty epic dating tips to share.Check em out right here (and subscribe to Bustle's You Tube for more life hacks!You don't need to talk about baby names the first time you hang out, but you should know if the person you're interested in is going to move across the country within the next three months before you get emotionally involved.It's perfectly reasonable to work together to accommodate your lifestyles to fit your relationship once you've been together for a while, but when you first start seeing someone, you need to make sure that your future and their future are going to be aligned long enough to actually be able to get to that point.Are you going to discover that the person you're seeing is actually running an underground league of supervillains? Are you going to discover that they have a bit of a reputation for domestic violence or sexual assault? Lots of the time, a background check will come up with a squeaky clean record, but being as 20 million people in the United States have been convicted of a felony, you could do yourself a big favor by running one just in case.As someone who has been both the lazier and the more active partner in relationships, I feel pretty confident in saying that if there's a massive exercise disparity between two romantically-involved people, things will usually not work out in the long run.
Getting back into the dating game can be tough, especially if you just got out of an LTR.And to do that, you might need to ask them a few questions... It's obviously not necessary to approach your current flame as though they were a job interview candidate, but by the time you've hung out a few times, there are some basic things you should know about them before deciding if you want to make things a bit more serious.Since a study by Breakthrough for a Broken Heart author Paul Davis says that it only takes an average of six to eight dates for couples to become "exclusive," you might want to cover all your bases pretty early on, too.Reason number one is obviously because food, but reason number two is because I can pretty much always tell whether or not I'd be willing to go on a second date with someone based on how they treat the server.You can learn a lot about someone based on how they treat people whose job it is to do whatever the customer wants, and even if your date treats you like a princess, it's important to remember that a person who is nice to you but isn't nice to the waiter is not a nice person.