French dating game
But, when you say it ‘en français’, it doesn’t quite translate as you’d like it to.
In other words, if you tell him ‘Je t’aime bien,’ your love interest isn’t likely to be making your relationship ‘Facebook official’ anytime soon.
If he’s really not making an effort, however, he’s probably not worth pursuing.
I’d previously been used to a world where if you appeared ‘too keen’, you might lose the guy prematurely.
Oh how different things might have been if I’d known then what I know now… You flirt, perhaps touch each other a little, (or, in my case, he brushed my leg with his foot under the table once, I blush thinking he’s outrageously flirting with me only for him then to apologise for accidentally kicking me.) Anyway, the chemistry is going wild yet he hasn’t made the move and kissed you.
I certainly learnt the hard way what you must never say to a French man if you wish to declare your feelings (en francais, parce que c’est plus romantique comme ça…) So, you’re dating. I was once in this position with a man I had feelings for, I was cautiously optimistic that he felt the same way but neither of us was brave enough to admit our feelings.
Once he gets to know you better though, make sure you’re not doing all the deciding work.Once you kiss a French man for the first time, you’re practically declaring exclusivity right off the bat.In other cultures, it may be normal to ‘date around’ when you’re single, see which shoe fits…’ Well, of course, in an ideal world I want to answer that question by saying, ‘Let’s do champagne at Le Meurice followed by the Opéra, topped off with a horse and carriage ride that would leave me right at the foot of my door.’ Once my head stops spinning and I’m brought back to the present moment, however, I have once made the regrettable decision of simply answering, ‘Oh, I don’t mind. ’ My date then suggested going for a drink at a bar in Le Marais.This sounded perfect until I Googled the bar and saw it was listed as, ‘Un établissement gay et lesbian’.