Jackie Pilossoph is the creator and Editor-In-Chief of Divorced Girl Smiling.
Speed dating first evolved over a decade ago, but it has become much more popular in recent years, especially among baby boomers and seniors.
You certainly do not want to be thrown off guard and in a poor mood when meeting the next potential partner. After all, you never know what set of eyes from across the room may be on you. Since you will only have a few minutes for conversation with your date, it is important that you get to know each other as efficiently as possible.
If your date seems to be talking about him or herself for far too long, try to chime in with a relatable experience you have had or an interest you have in common.
Jackie, I am approaching 50, and just over one year separated from my husband. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism from Boston University.
As I look forward and begin to think about the possibility of future relationships, I can see that dating over 50 might be difficult. So, not only does a large age range, (let’s say 42-57 perhaps?
It is a formalized process in which the participants are broken up into pairs and rotate partners every 3-8 minutes (depending on the event).
I notice that lots of people who were married for maybe 10 years or less seem to say…we got married early, found out it didn’t work, and then later remarried and have found long term, happiness with their next partner/spouse. ) increase the number of potential men for you, but I think you will see that age is only a number, unlike it was, say if you were 30, dating a 20 year old. Go on dates, but don’t force the serious relationship.
What I also notice is that I don’t seem to hear any/as many happy stories about people (like me) who were married 20-25 years, got divorced, and then found happiness/ marriage, etc again. I have always believed that 50’s is in fact, no-man’s land, whether you are single, married, divorced or widowed, the reason being that you aren’t really young anymore, but you aren’t old either. I am me and all I can do is live life to my potential. The thing that bothered me most about your email is this part: You write: “found happiness/marriage etc.
Most speed-dating events specify a certain cultural background, religion, or age group as a requirement to participate.
Among the over-50 population, this style of dating is especially common.