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Even if all that happened was a no-strings fling, I was still more interested in what they were like as people – did they have ambition? Well, it turns out there is a whole other layer of disappointment that someone in my position has to deal with.
First up, there was the guy who told me he didn’t really like women with children and it annoyed him that there were so many mums on dating sites – even though I had written it clearly on my profile!
I learned to keep quiet about my dating adventures and largely ignored the so-called ‘advice’, but I soon realised that meeting new men isn’t quite the wall-to-wall fun I’d imagined.
What became immediately clear is that lots of people my age are like Tom – old before their time and acting like we’ve been married for 30 years.
Another man I dated for a few months got annoyed that I couldn’t spontaneously go to London for a long weekend because I had Josh.
And, of course, the only way to find guys if you’re at home every night while your child is asleep is online dating.
In fact, a single-mum friend was seeing a guy who used her ‘lack of spontaneity’ as an excuse for sleeping with someone else.
Now when I spot the word ‘spontaneous’ in a man’s dating profile, I swipe left.
Their comments made me feel that my desire for dating and sex meant I wasn’t measuring up as a mum in some way.
But I seriously doubt any single dads ever receive the same type of criticism.