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However, an alarming amount of people seem to forget this simple fact and think it’s a good idea to play “hard to get” via text, and then wonder why they stop hearing from their new flame!While it’s fine to wait a few hours to respond to a text if you’re busy and wouldn’t recommend that you constantly drop everything to respond to a text message within minutes, don’t go out of your way to play games."Men feel disoriented when you disclose intimate details too soon," says Kreidman."You think you're bonding, but he thinks you're an open book to everyone." What you censor — about your exes, family, friends, even your schedule — can be more powerful than what you reveal.Likewise, if they are bombarding you with texts, then maybe they are going to be a lot of work – AKA . Even if you are a night owl and 1am is 9pm to other mortals, don’t go there until s/he has a chance to get to know you.Some people like this, some people don’t – it’s up to you to decide. You’re being a “Jack Of All Topics” Once again, continuity is super important. Most people see late night texts as an attempt at a “booty call”.More often than not, it won’t work in your favor and if you wait a day or two to respond, he’ll think you’re ghosting him.Think playing mind games with men smacks of unscrupulous femme fatale-style manipulation? The game plan: No matter how badly you want to dial his digits or reply to his e-mails, you're better off curbing your enthusiasm when you're first dating.
A guy who's guaranteed to focus on hearing you out."It shows him that you're worth the wait and effort.Allow him to simmer, wondering what you're doing." Laura,* 21, won over her boyfriend using this trick.When he'd leave a message on her home line, Laura waited at least a day to call back. The waiting game lets you test his willingness to pursue, adds Ellen Kreidman, Ph D, author of The game plan: When you date a guy you dig and get that urge to share your personal experiences, opinions, history...stop!Early-stage TMI is a major turn-off for most males.