Dating again after an abusive relationship
The trauma of experiencing domestic abuse can take a long time to recover from, and survivors need time to rebuild their confidence, self-esteem and ability to trust a new partner.
"A survivor of domestic abuse once told me that the bruises heal, but it is the effects of emotional and psychological abuse that stay with you long after leaving the abuser.
And to learn how to fill that void of vulnerability. Only once I built my self-esteem would I attract a man who would treat me as worthy. I want to share this as I know there are many others for whom this might help.
And I am certain we are going to grow old together. How did I not go head first into the next abusive relationship? To understand why not all my emotional needs were met as a child.
Trust me, it’s better to walk away sooner, rather than later.
Here’s another one: watch not what they say, but what they do. You show someone you love them by treating them as loveable. And another mantra: if it sounds to good to be true, it usually is.
Once we’re drawn in deep enough, another side appears. Denying those that were screaming at me that this relationship was no good for me. (I’ve created a whole new category for them on here).
Katie Ghose, the chief executive of Women's Aid, told "Domestic abuse has a long-lasting and devastating impact on survivors. From survivor to success in life, career and long-term, healthy love. She’s a survivor of domestic violence, helping others go from victim to survivor. The same is true for when you meet someone who is good for you, like I did with the man I am married to now. Not just sitting back and observing the man he was showing himself to be. I was projecting onto him my fears that he was another abusive man. I was trying to end it before he left me, which I was convinced was going to happen.